This may not seem like a rocket science, however it needs to be remembered and addressed in a more pragmatic way, well actually in a more empathetic, compassion, caring, understanding and dare I say loving way, to support people who have been affected by this.
I’m not sure if you have seen, were still face experiment. I ask of a parent and small baby, infant two be involved. The parent interacts is parent normally would with a small child. You know smiling, playing, showing love, for attention and being present. The baby/small infant is in his element happy, smiling, giggling and truly showing its joy. They then ask the parent to turn away, then turned back again and for her face to remain still only showed no emotion whatsoever. The child reacts almost instantly, using its little resources to elicit the attention it had a few minutes ago. Within a minute the child gets distraught as their parent shows no emotion, the child descends utter panic and distress, despair as its strategies on to working. This is within minutes, the distress in the child is clearly evident. The parent then RE engages with the child and he returns almost instantly to a state of joy and happiness again.
Again, it’s not rocket science to see all understand that if this is played out dozens, hundreds, thousands of times the emotional impact on a child in the first few years of his life could be utterly devastating to its emotional wellbeing and understanding. We know in those first 5 to 7 years the personality is being formed, the brain is being hardwired, the programme’s it runs of being set. Would it be any wonder that this person grows up to had issues so to speak. The jury is out on whether this would be complex post-traumatic stress disorder CPTSD or a borderline personality disorder. There is evidence that saw the worst serial killers had this kind of our brilliant I’m not saying that all or people who have experienced this will end up as serial killers. But I know from my own experience emotional regulation is challenging, relationships and interactions with other people I challenging.
My own self-esteem and self-worth his battered and at times very low. I know why this is, I have awareness of perceives that were planted so long ago and the plants are grew as a result of this. You can never change the past, you can forgive and and forgive and forgive again and again those people involved. You can even understand if you have a context as to why they behave this way. However, managing the effects and affects is a challenge. One that needs to be met with understanding, compassion, empathy, love, patience, caring and positive regard by the people involved in that individual’s life. Looking beyond their behaviour, beyond their paranoia, beyond how they are on they are treated by circumstances beyond their control. Mental Health Services need to have awareness of this and respond in a much more person-centred way to the needs of these individuals one size does not fit all, one therapy alone isn’t the be all and end all it takes a coordinated and holistic approach, a bit like combination therapy.